Relationship Advice From a Newbie Owner – Romans 56
The Romans were known to be the first people to use the concept of unconditional love. All love is based on unconditional love. “Unconditional” means “free of conditions.” So, we have free will in all types of love. Conditioned love means “given under certain conditions.” These conditions are usually pre-conditions to loving you again or even better cherishing you forever.
You may be wondering what happens if one of those conditions is not met. In this case, love would then become conditional. For example, suppose you fell in love with a man and he dumped you and started working somewhere else. You could still love him and want to come back to him because you had fallen in love with him for unconditionally loving you. This does not mean that, though, that he did not dump you.
Conditioned love becomes conditional, however, when it’s used for something that can not be reciprocated no matter how much you love him. He dumped you because of a misunderstanding between you and him. In this case, unconditional love does not work. But, conditional love can work for you if your love is unconditional.
What does unconditional mean? It simply means that you feel no responsibility for anything. It means that you feel no guilt about hurting another person because it was your choice. Conditioned love becomes conditional if it involves guilt. For instance, if you hit your husband or wife, you might feel guilty and try to justify it by saying that “he deserved it.”
Unconditional love does not allow you to justify anything. If you get angry at someone, don’t say that it’s “her fault” or that “she deserved it.” Just try to remember why you felt anger in the first place. If it was out of anger, that’s fine. If it was out of revenge, that’s also fine.
Conditioned love in its most extreme form is called hate. It is the purest form of hate. It is the desire to hurt or harm others in any way possible. It is not based on logic or reasoning. This is what many describe as the worst type of love.
The good news is that it can be learned. You can become better lovers and good friends to others. All it takes is some new skills. When you are better able to communicate with each other, be willing to take a different approach, and demonstrate a greater willingness to listen to each other’s needs, then you will have truly mastered the art of love.
In order to love someone, you need to feel love for yourself first. It’s a two way street. You can only love someone, and they can only love you if you show them true love. Show them how much you really do love them by being yourself. That way, they will know that you aren’t just using them for your selfish needs but because you genuinely care.
Be prepared for romance to take a back seat to other relationships. Don’t expect your romans relationship with others to be what it once was. It’s a two way street. Be prepared to have an open and honest dialog with your romans about what’s happening in their lives outside the relationship.
Take charge of your romans relationship with your partner. The relationship you have with your romans doesn’t have to be about sharing all the time and all the decisions. Your romans may need some input too, but don’t let that interfere with the way you both work toward the same common goal. This is a time to learn how to share responsibilities and stand together for the greater good of the relationship.
Be ready to be flexible and to learn on the fly. This is part of the beauty of being in love. You can never be perfect, and the same goes for your relationship with your romans. Just learn to be willing to make mistakes and to accept them as a learning curve. You will grow in leaps and bounds.
Don’t get stuck in the same old routine. You can’t expect to build a successful relationship if you’re always doing the same thing. Try new things, do new things, and don’t be afraid to try something a little different if it brings you joy and happiness. This is the best way to ensure your romans experience the security and stability you’re looking for in your relationship building experience.