The word patience in Hebrew is “qavah” which means “to wait for, to look for, to hope, or to expect.”  

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices.
— Psalm 37:7 NIV

"Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him." In this passage, we see that God wants us to look to Him for direction. Sometimes He doesn't give us the answer right away, sometimes He tells us an answer that we don't want to hear, and sometimes He tells us to wait. 

Being patient, waiting, is something that I think takes practice. I think the first step in being patient with the Lord is understanding that patience is good. Patience is a fruit of the spirit and God uses patience to bring us closer to Him as well as to give us things that we want in His timing.

understanding god's love for us

Growing up, I never had a solid group of friends. I struggled with feeling known by people and felt like I never had a good community. When I was a sophomore in college I joined a ministry and started learning how to be vulnerable with people. I started learning how to let people know me. The people that I met and got to know in this ministy became my best friends - and they still are today, five years later. When we think about patience, sometimes we can lose hope or look around and see all the things that aren't happening to us compared to other people. If we compare our journey to others, we will never understand God's love for us. Waiting on the Lord allowed me to wait for a community that is more than I could have ever imagined. He knows me better than I know myself and so he knows what I need more than I do. I think that it took me choosing to believe that God loves me and knows the desires of my heart to begin to really be patient. 

So we have to our part. We get to choose patience when the world makes us want to choose the opposite. We get to choose to wait and be thankful for what we already have.

ask for help

Even better news is that we don't/can't do it on our own. Because patience fruit of the Spirit, God grows it in us. So how do we get help from God? We ask. When it feels like waiting is hard or not worth it. We ask for help. He always gives it to us. We tell God how we feel and we let Him help us. Part of that is telling him the desires of your heart. What are you patiently (or maybe not so patiently) waiting for? Tell God. He longs to give things to His children. 

- Laura Lewis